Everywhere you go, you hear people talk about how moms have it easy because all they have to do is take care of the kids. Well, let me ask you this, have you ever taken care of a kid for longer than a few hours?! And even if you have, it’s totally different when you’re the parent. You have to make the hard decisions and be the rule enforcer. Dads get to go to work and have a day to themselves, then when they have a day off, again they have more time to themselves. But what about us? What about moms?
Moms don’t get a day off. Whether you’re a stay at home mom or a working mom. For working moms, you get up, get your kids settled into whatever they’re doing that day, then you go to work. When you get home, you’re the mom again. You fix dinner, give baths, read books, and put the kids to bed. Then, if you have a day off, you spend it taking kids to events or dr appointments. No time off ever unless you magically get someone to watch your kids for a few hours. But even then, you’re constantly thinking about what they’re doing and if they’re ok and you’re always checking your phone. Then there’s stay at home moms like me. We get such grief about how we’re so lucky to stay at home all day. Well let me tell you, it’s not all it’s cracked up to be! Being a mom is a full time job, and even though we don’t go to work, we are expected to keep the house in shape. We are a full time financial advisor and enforcer, full time nanny (sure it’s our kids, but this is for argument sake), full time secretary, and a full time cook. But we don’t get breaks. If the house isn’t clean at the end of the day, we get the “geez, what did you do all day?” And if the kids aren’t bathed and in bed on time, the rest of the night, and usually the next day, are messed up. I forgot to mention what is required if you have a baby. Not only do you have to stay sane through it all, you’re sleep deprived from being up during the night to feed the baby.
So you see? No matter what your working status is, you don’t ever really get a day off as a mom. Sure, you could maybe take a little vaycay, but then you get griped at for being an irresponsible mom. Dads have it way easy. They could leave for a week and life would continue, but if us moms left for a week (leaving the kids at home with dad), the fridge would be empty, they’d be living off of pasta, the finances would be forgotten (which, be honest, we moms would do bills while we were gone), and our kids would be devistated.
Now, I’m not trying to discredit you husbands. You do a great job at what you do, and you are all (well mostly all) great dads! But be honest, how many of you really would feel comfortable staying at home with your kids by yourself for more than a few hours? This isn’t to show you how bad you are, but to show just how much moms actually do. We really do more than just sit on our couch and eat Bon bons!
So, if you don’t have kids, sleep all you can and enjoy your night life because it all changes once you experience the gift of giving life. But having kids, enduring all of those sleepless nights and stressful days, is totally worth everything. But I won’t lie, I would like a day off.