I know what you’re thinking, “Oh my goodness! How could she say such a thing!?”, but hear me out, it’s not what you think.
All moms are horrible moms, which is why all moms are also the best moms. We all have our own style of parenting, and our own opinions about how kids should be raised. We tend to judge and criticize other parents when they do something, or don’t do something, that we think should be done differently. Some parents spank, some don’t. Some parents let their kids eat candy, and some don’t. That’s just how it is, but no matter how much you agree or disagree, there is nothing wrong with yours, or anyone’s, parenting styles.
Without different upbringings, the world would be a very dull place. You would have a human race who acted and lived like clones. Believing the same things, working the same way, and then raising their kids the same way that they were brought up. There would be no strive to do better because everyone would have the exact same work ethics. There would be no drive to become something more because everyone would be equals. Sure, this is generalized thinking, and a lot of variables are left out such as individual thinking and different personalities, but I’m simply trying to give an example. It is important that we raise our kids to our best knowledge, and that we stick to what we believe. Be consistent in your parenting style, but be sure to keep an open mind to advice from other parents.
Just because someone doesn’t agree with the way that you parent doesn’t mean that you’re not doing a great job. There is always going to be someone who doesn’t like the way you’re raising your kids, but then again, there will always be someone who parents in a way that you don’t agree with. This is what my focus is on in this post. To one mom, you are a horrible mom. You spank your kids, let them eat candy and watch tv, and let them stay up late every once in a while, and because of all that, you’re a terrible mom in their books. But then there’s the mom who doesn’t let her kids outside without supervision and only lets them have sugar on their birthday, and you call them uptight. So you see? No matter what type of parent you turn out to be, you will always be a horrible mom to someone else, but because you stick to your beliefs and raise your kids the best way you know how, you are actually the best mom for your kids that there could be.
In the end, we are all horrible moms, to other moms, and we are all amazing parents, to our children. Don’t worry about whether people think you’re a good mom or not because you are always the best parent as long as your main goal is to take care of your kids.